As many of you know that my son has Aspergers. He was diagnosed at the age of four with this form of autism.
Our family started out with all of the hopes of every set of parents bringing a child into the world.
However our sons birth would lead to the wildest adventure a person could ever imagine. It reminds me of that Old movie A yankee in King Arthur's Court. I somehow landed in another world where things didn't make sense. I didn't fit in with the normal parents and even my own family (mostly in laws haha ) thought I was strange because of the many things we tried during raising our son in the last few years. I saw other parents going to eat dinner in restaurants with children who sat eating normal food and having conversations with each other. While my husband and I were wrapping our sons ears with giant headphones and begging him not to scream so we could scarf down a few bites before being asked to calm our child down by some rude person sitting beside us.
School time was the worst for me. I had to drop my son off with all the other children and see him wander off to the side to play by himself. Teachers who judged my parenting skills as I tried to work and run to school on a daily basis due to my sons meltdowns. These were very strange and hard days.
My only saving grace was my husband who tried daily to keep me together.
Through much intervention my son is amazing today. Is he quirky?? Oh yes !! He's smart and funny. Caring and loving. On the other hand he says what he thinks and sometimes this can sound like he's being a jerk lol. If your belly is a little large he might ask if your pregnant. Or the adventure in Walmart when he yelled loudly across the aisle that a lady had huge boobs😬 Oops. Yeah we ran quickly out of there.
Today we were sitting in a restaurant eating lunch and there was a baby yelling loudly behind us. My son says "wow that kid sure is loud ". My husband and I laughed and said oh yeah? You were way louder than that. He doesn't remember those days to his good fortune. Dad and I will always be appreciate the quiet meals and being able to eat without being yelled at.
I have learned many lessons from my baby boy. Always try to encourage and push your Aspergers child. They see the world and people through rose colored glasses Everyone is nice and the world is always amazing. He has shown me that if you try hard enough you can make almost any situation better.
Today my son has many friends in his school and he's incredibly smart. Smart enough that most days I feel awkward but boy has he changed. A once angry little boy that couldn't communicate is now talking like he's 40 years old and making my life incredibly happy.
I was once angry myself. At God for letting my son be affected this way, for the world who judged us and basically anyone I came in contact with.
Today I sit in my living room writing this while my son is acting like a typical 10 year old texting girls from school.
Cool huh ?
Life is a roller coaster I heard in a movie once. Boy they weren't a kidding.
My advice to the other parents out there with an autistic kid.
Pray for strength, believe things will get better , encourage your child daily and celebrate all achievements big or small.
Today's achievement?
I have 20 minutes of free time to write this and look back on all the blessings.
